In spite of my not going across Canada I still planned to live my message. I couldn’t in good faith tell everyone not to wait and then me wait till things were better. So my son finished my van and I left home to explore Ontario.

I have been gone just over 2 weeks and am finding it to be a great experience. As for the van, it needs a few minor tweaks. Nothing that I wasn’t able to problem solve myself while on the road. For instance, the cupboard doors and drawers open when I make right hand turns. They close when I turn left. To fix this for the time being, I merely added some of those 3M Command hooks top and bottom and wrapped string between them. There is still a little movement but nothing than can’t be rectified with the right magnets installed.

Being on my own, it was clear that I needed to be mindful of how much I exposed the living quarters of my vehicle so I committed to using the front driver’s seat to step into the back of the van. I simply part heavy curtains and voila…there is my living room et el. It made perfect sense that as I stepped in, I should back out. This I only did once as it proved to require more awareness of my size than I had anticipated. Stepping back my first morning at a very early hour, I startled myself and probably others when I sat on the horn. Lesson learned: step into the back and step out from the back. No more horns.

I am sure there will be other things for me to learn as I discover what it is like to live in my tiny home.

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We had bought a sailboat although we didn’t know how to sail and amidst the nay-sayers who thought we were being foolish. It turned out that it wasn’t a foolish thing to do at all. We learned how to sail in and out of our local harbor and eventually to even go further out to sea – so to speak. For many summers we sailed forth into great adventures where we would often lay anchor and while away the time together – even writing a book: The Boomerang Effect.

A couple of years after Joe passed away, I realized how fortunate I was to have lived so fully and to have all those priceless memories and so a dream was born.  I got busy writing a book/journal which told my life story but also provided a calendar/journal for readers to start living their own journey. And with that book was the book signing/speaking tour called Don’t Die Before You’re Dead to inspire others to not wait but rather to live now while you can, able bodies and mentally strong.  The message was “You might not be able to do everything, but you can do something.”

Then Covid struck in early 2020 and the idea of my six month cross Canada tour became completely uncertain. People I spoke to didn’t want to make plans. Nothing could be firmed up as we waited to see how things were going to shake out. As it was, my regular clients ended up cancelling, hopefully postposing, workshops and presentations as meetings were discontinued. We didn’t know that it would become so severe well into 2021.

My message is still valid and in good faith I set out to find the perfect vehicle to convert to my mini-camper for my solo tour. I was not to be put off as I lived my message of living as fully as I can.

I found this van and promptly set out to work with my son to do the conversions. He was amazing. In spite of laughing at my thought of having a “hallway” in such a small space, he listened and created one for me. With all the other work he had to do, it was finished for the lifting of our lockdown order. Two days later I hit the road.

My plan has changed. It would seem that now my tour is a journey of discovery. A discovery of Ontario for this summer; a discovery of how well suited the camper van is to my road-tripping and of course self discovery as I learn how to create this wonderful adventure on my own.

As restrictions lift, it is harder to make the decision to make the tour next year. The point is though that I am not cancelling and that I am open to choose my own adventure now. This will be on my dime as opposed to having sponsors or the speaking engagements but none-the-less it will be filled to the brim with new memories to cherish.

I have only been gone 11 days and I have already met some amazing people who are eager to follow my journey. I am happy for them but want them not to just live through me but to fully live themselves. I hope you will be one of them.

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Keep well and stay safe. Happy trails to you.

That particular son became quite the traveler and ended up becoming a minimalist. He bought stuff and sold stuff when he moved on. What a world view he gained living in multiple countries until he married and had a daughter. Although they have settled, he has maintained his minimalist view and is not a collector of stuff. Even his daughter lets go of those toys she no longer plays with and enjoys donating them to others.

My son and I have often talked about what’s the most important collection of all. Memories are what we both agree are our most prized possessions. There is nothing he likes more than to share his life experiences as a traveler. Using internet videos he teaches his daughter that the world is so much bigger than just their inner circle.

As for me, I am blessed to savor amazing memories from the experiences and adventures that my husband Joe and I lived before he passed way too early. We didn’t have that many years together as we were both in our 40’s when we met and married. That didn’t stop us from seeking an active lifestyle even to the extent of buying a sailboat. This alarmed many of our friends as neither he nor I knew anything about sailing. But we learned.

Being both teachers, we were able to spend our summers on our boat exploring ports and anchorages.  Many times we either dropped our anchor to bob around or tied off to trees on shore where we could do some sight seeing. One such climb took us to the top of an escarpment where the vista was breathtaking. Our pictures have become my treasures.

But it isn’t the pictures that are my prized possessions. It is the memories that I can relive and relive any time I want. If we had chosen to listen to our friends and not take the risk to become sailors, I wouldn’t have those memories to keep me company now that Joe has done. If we had put things off until later, nothing would have happened because later didn’t come for Joe.

Go make memories. They are what will sustain you when you can no longer do what you love. Don’t take life for granted that it will be here when you’re ready as we have no guarantees. Live fully every single day.

This was something that I had never considered before. Looking at a momentary decision through the perspective of whether or not it would be regretted later. What if we thought of our daily decisions through this lens? How would that impact our hindsight in years to come?

There is a tendency for us to be what others want us to be. It makes for more peaceful relationships with them yet leaves ourselves short changed. Unless we are completely satisfied taking the easy route in the meantime.  Then we alone are left with the regrets.

No others will ever suffer from the regrets we will have later.  Are we prepared for that? When we sit in our rocking chairs in our golden years, where will those others be?  I suspect they will be pondering their own regrets. What a waste.

Live your life in such a way as to know that when you are done, you will have lived the meant you wanted, not the one others wanted for you.

Take steps every day to decide for yourselves. Make the memories that will give you joy. Avoid at all cost living in the Land of Regrets.

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However, when really thinking about it, one doesn’t look so sweet when clinging to the knot. At least I know I don’t. I am usually frazzled, beyond myself with arms and legs akimbo and far from being speechless.

Crazy lady images come more to mind. In fact, I remember one day, my second son really taking a risk by telling his brothers not to worry about it; mom was just yelling again! And he lives to talk about it!

What is it like for you when you get there? Do you see it coming? Can you head it off at the pass?

Do you recognize these phrases: I am stretched to the limit; I have reached the end of my patience?

I bet you do. Was there one that was used more often in your home as you grew up? Do you you it too? What exactly does running out of patience mean? This is how dictionary.com defines patience:

“noun – the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.”

Yep. That’s what I thought. It is very clear to me that the signs of being out of patience would be as obvious as a zero bank balance. It would be very apparent to all. Or so my kids tell me.

We know what it takes to get our bank accounts refilled. Do we know how to get our patience refilled? Is it really as easy as a change of pace, going on a coffee date, perhaps a walk around the block or some serious expression of annoyance?

Those expressions have been known to cause some pretty disastrous relationship issues. How about creating a specific formula? A pill to swallow or a potion to drink could solve it all. Really? Where’s the learning in that?

Before we know it, we’d be right back where we started. Have you seen all the Calm sayings that were posted on Facebook?

There was a whole seris of the Stay Calm theme. The words written on posters, T-Shirts and coffee mugs told us many ways to stay calm. Stay calm and take action. Ours to choose which one.

I got thinking that if this theme was so popular with so many sayings, then losing one’s patience must be a universal issue.

As humans we tend to have lots to deal with and we need to have a way to deal with it. Makes us members of a very large club.

If you are like me and you have a tendencey to be somewhat – and I use that term loosely – vocal about your “end of the rope” situation, then perhaps we could work together, volunteer to handle phone calls for the sole purpose of venting and saving others from wrath.

Nah! No one wants to be on the other end…let’s just leave voice mail messages that self-erarse. Out with the bad air; in with the good. Patience restored.

Coypright 2019 Merri Macartney. Merri works with organizations that want to merge laughter and learning to boost morale, reduce stress and enhance the wellbeing of their staff.

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